Stretchy Pants and New Beginnings

Just when you think you have an idea of what your life is going to be, reality comes along and lets you know that you don’t. This pretty much describes where I’m at right now. As some will know Sarah and I have decided to go our separate ways because it became apparent that our lives had already begun to do so long before we realized we would have to do the same.

And so suddenly I find myself a single guy of 34, living with my mum while I figure out my next move. Sarah and I were joking that I will probably just end up sitting on the couch wolfing down TV dinners while mum and I watch Goggle Box and argue about Immigrants. Fortunately those days have passed me by and I get ancy if I spend too long in one place, so the next move is definitely going to be onwards and upwards!

Before all this break up malarkey, there was already a loose plan in place, it originally involved Sarah but in reality it was my plan which I had unfairly tacked Sarah onto and was trying to get her to be happy with. That plan still has its merits, and is probably now more suitable to the life I imagined for myself than it was before, but it is going to take some adjusting to realize that all these things now need to be done on my own.

You don’t realize how much a partner influences your daily life until they are no longer there to do so, or how much you rely on them to validate your decisions and plans. So now it is just me, and as sad as I am that Sarah is not going to be there for me to laugh with, or to share the amazing experiences I am sure are still to come, or to be my back up when I am on unfamiliar territory, it is also a challenge I am trying to embrace. For the first time in my life it is just me, making decisions which affect just me. Now I get to see how much of my bravado comes from having backup, and how strong or weak I am as an individual making my way through the trials and tribulations of travel, and life in general.

I know the near future is going to be a challenge, but I am trying not to visualize it through the eyes of the weak willed young fella I was before I met Sarah, and rather by the more confident new guy she helped me become.

So there are plans in the works, and there are decisions to be made. I kind of have an idea of what comes next but for now I am trying just to focus on embracing and accepting this huge change in my life, and looking at the positives and silver linings that come with every big decision.

But most of all I am just going to try and be in the moment, wearing my stretchy pants, eating English food, and arguing with my mum over Immigrants (for now!).

 

12 Comments
  • Sarah
    Posted at 11:44h, 16 December Reply

    Well if that’s what it took to get you writing again… Great to read this and I know there are awesome adventures ahead for you.
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  • SOS... Still
    Posted at 12:15h, 16 December Reply

    I am excited to watch your next adventure unfold! Cheering you on!! I am all too familiar with the “It’s just me” realization and I know two things to be true: 1) I can and will choose to be brave and LIVE, and 2) your courage and world view was instrumental in building my own. Thank you. Now get on with it and don’t let the stretchy pants stretch too far! Ha! You can and will create something amazing for yourself!
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    • booth_1@hotmail.com
      Posted at 04:45h, 17 December Reply

      Thanks SOS, hitting the gym to get those feel good hormones going so I shouldn’t go up a stretchy pants size despite the Christmas calories!

  • Patti
    Posted at 12:59h, 16 December Reply

    One day at a time, one step at a time, right? Looking forward to watching your plans unfold.

  • Brendan
    Posted at 19:18h, 16 December Reply

    That weak willed young fella is long gone bro.

    You inspire me every day, keep at it.

  • Taunia Baxter
    Posted at 23:38h, 16 December Reply

    WOW..I’m so impressed and full of respect for you both. Good luck on your new adventure. It will definitely unfold a new world. Hang on tight and enjoy.

    • booth_1@hotmail.com
      Posted at 07:11h, 17 December Reply

      Thanks Taunia, It’ll at least be interesting to see where this road leads.

  • Sam
    Posted at 13:10h, 20 December Reply

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts here Tyrhone. Much respect and all the best as you navigate through the transition. For what it’s worth, I’ve been a solo traveler for many years, and in my experience, the thrills and lessons of new exploration and self-discovery have far outweighed the lonelier moments. Looking forward to reading about where your new adventures take you!

  • Sally Holmes
    Posted at 20:30h, 22 December Reply

    All the best Tyrhone. Wishing you well on your ongoing journey!

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